Anger: Taming the Beast

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What People Are Saying About Anxiety, Phobias & Panic

Just what I’ve come to expect from Reneau, another high quality, practical book that will benefit anyone who reads it.

Rex Briggs, MSW
Author of Transforming Anxiety, Transcending Shame

I found chapters 10 and 11 very pertinent for resolving several recent situations in which I found myself involved with.

Bruce L. Rollman, M.D., M.P.H.
Assistant Professor of Medicine, Psychiatry & Health Administration

This book provides an understanding of anger, its causes and its consequences. Guidelines for acting on anger in a calm, assertive and appropriate manner are provided. Valuable information is presented, not only for those who deal with explosive or suppressed anger, but also for those of us, who consider that we address anger appropriately. New ways of thinking about the causes of anger, and of responding to anger are presented in a clear and easy to follow format. The strategies and techniques proposed are easy to understand, easy to implement, and easy to remember.

Gabriel Meehan
Director of Educational Services for Heald College, Sacramento

 

Table of Contents

Preface

Acknowledgment

Chapter 1: Where Does the Beast Come From?

• Is There a Positive Side to Anger?
• What Is Anger?
• How to Get the Most Out of This Book

Chapter 2: Facing the Beast

• Appropriate Vs Inappropriate Anger
• Two roadblocks to Change
• Abusive Behavior

Chapter 3: The Nature of the Beast

• What Are Emotions?
• Three Common Myths about Anger
• How Anger is Expressed
• Learn to Recognize the Different forms of Anger

Chapter 4: Thoughts that Awaken the Beast

• Six Common Types of Distorted Thinking
• A Three-Step Approach to Reducing Distorted Thinking

Chapter 5: Stress and the Beast

• What is Stress?
• Your Body Is a Machine with a Limited Amount of Energy
• Decompression Routines
• Managing Times of Excessive Stress

Chapter 6: Additional Thoughts that Awaken the Beast

• Who's to Blame?
• Four common Erroneous Assumptions that Trigger Anger
• Mind Reading

Chapter 7: How the Beast is Shaped During Childhood

• Creating a Record of Your Childhood
• Sharon
• David
• Carmen
• Alex
• The Time Tunnel
• Core Beliefs

Chapter 8: When the Beast is a Ghost from the Past

• Cultural Stereotypes
• The Legacy of a Dysfunctional Family
• The "What's Happening? What's Real?" Technique

Chapter 9: The Beast as Defender

• The Motivational Side of Anger
• Anger as a Psychological Defense Mechanism
• The Price of Using Anger as a Defense
• Learning to Experience all Your Emotions
• Behavior as Coded Message

Chapter 10: Learning New Ways to Resolve Conflicts

• Three Styles of Conflict Management
• Five General Approaches to Resolving Problems and conflicts
• Common Erroneous Beliefs about Assertiveness
• Rights and Responsibilities
• Hit-and-Run Situations
• D.E.R. Scripts

Chapter 11: More on Conflict Resolution

• Five Common forms of Resistance
• The Non-negotiator
• Becoming an Effective Negotiator
• A Five Step Approach for Resolving Conflict

Chapter 12: Embarrassment and Shame

• Embarrassment
• Summary Sheets
• Shame
• Adding a Spiritual/Existential Dimension to Your Work

Chapter 13: Resentment, Envy, and Jealousy

• Resentment
• Envy
• Jealousy

Chapter 14: Managing the Frustrations of Parenting

• Children Are Not Miniature Adults
• Most Things Can Wait
• Becoming a Source of Encouragement
• Teachable and Unteachable Times
• Lower Your Action Point
• Natural and Logical Consequences
• Get Out of the "Crime and Punishment" Cycle
• Suggestions for Very Young Children

Chapter 15: Making Peace with Intimacy

• Substitutes for Intimacy
• What is Intimacy Like?
• Eight Qualities that Increase Intimacy
• Four Common Areas of Conflict

Chapter 16: On Your Own

• Three Plans
• A Final Word

Appendix 1: Selecting a Therapist

Appendix 2: Locating a Self-Help Group

Supplemental Material

Recommended Reading

Index

Biography

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