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Public Speaking Tips
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The fear of speaking to a group of people is one of the most common forms of social phobia. Here are several suggestions for working with this fear. Combat distorted thinking The focus of this fear is concerns about what others will think of your presentation. Here are some coping self-statements that address common aspects of this concern: “Remember that I am not that important to most of these people.” “Even when I make what I consider to be a major error, it is often not even noticed by the listeners.” “When an error is noticed, most people don’t think much about it—just like me.” Focus on helping The key to a successful talk is to present something that will be useful rather than just persuading or entertaining. Make your purpose: “Help me to serve, not just to shine; help me empower, not just impress.” Develop a speaking style that fits your personality Thing of all the comedians that you have watched. Each one has a different way of making you laugh. The key to each comedian’s success is that they fit their material into their own unique style. Likewise, there are as many different successful styles of public speaking as there are successful public speakers. Don’t try to be someone different from who you are. Don’t be afraid to laugh at yourself The only perfect public speakers are in training films. These are usually the result of retakes and editing. Making mistakes helps humanize your program and connect you with the audience. Think of various speakers you have enjoyed. Most of them probably made some minor errors. Don’t rely too heavily on a script You don’t take cue cards to a party. Prepare your key points, but don’t memorize or read lines. Of course, this is easiest when you speak about something you know. Use humor that relates to the content and purpose of the talk Humor provides your listeners with memory pegs for retention, helps you illustrate your key points, and generates genuine enthusiasm in both you and your audience. At the same time, poorly used humor can also distract from your presentation. When using humor don’t just ask yourself, “Is it funny?” Also ask, “Does it work in getting my point across in a timely, tactful, and tasteful way?” Find and talk key audience members Identify the people in the audience who give you energy and support. Focusing on the best audience members with good eye contact enables you to draw from their enthusiasm. Good speaking is not talking to audiences; it is talking to a roomful of people one person at a time. Use anecdotes from your own life Stories grab people and are easier to remember than dry facts or principles. When using stories, your own are best as they are easy to remember and are always new to the audience. Use relaxation techniques Developing a relaxation response and using relaxed diaphragmatic breathing are two good mechanical ways of reducing tension. Practice, practice, practice Speak publicly every chance you get. Toastmasters International is a good place to begin if you’re uncomfortable with public speaking and want to improve. |
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